Our Marriage 2nd Time Around...More than we bargained for!

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Bill Barrett left me in May 2000. Who would have guessed that our son's accident September 23, 2002 would bring Bill and I back together again, yet it happened. Kyle fractured his skull and had two major bleeds, requiring two different emergency brain surgeries. Bill and I began talking and dating following his surgery and we remarried January 28, 2004. Our kids did not support the remarriage. We did not take a honeymoon because we were moving two households into a new neutral home. On February 2, 2004, Bill lost his job, we could no longer live in the 4 bedroom home we moved into, therefore, I talked with my landlord about staying in my townhome until we found a place. We could not stay there long because no dogs were allowed and Bill had rescued a dog whom became the child of the second marriage. We moved to a tiny 3 bedroom rental house in May 2004. Actually we moved 3 times between January and May 2004! Bill found a great job, and we thought things would look up for us. Wrong, my precious mom had a debilitating stroke January 16, 2005. She was in the hospital 11 days, in a rehab hospital 7 days, she could not tolerate the extensive therapy and was moved to a Nursing Home! I worked full time, after work, I would run to the Nursing Home, bathe mom and get her to bed, I'd leave the Nursing Home and go check on my father. He lost 10 pounds and developed pneumonia! Mom and dad have been married 67 years and needed to be together. Mom was in the nursing home one month. She complained she would die if she did not get out. Mom did not recover fully and is in need of 24/7 care because her left arm is useless and her left leg weak. It was not working, I quit my job, we found a manufactured 4 bedroom home and Bill and I moved my parents in with us! There is no way we can afford a vacation, pay for my parent's care and keep our head above water. Although I have a sister, she has a life of her own and feels if a person cannot take care of themself they belong in a home!

Besides occasional help from our children, we have the care of dad and mom 24/7! That alone is a reason we need a break and vacation. Another reason is because Bill and I have yet to get away for a honeymoon and we need it deperately. I do not want to lose Bill again! I want to be able to have a romantic dinner, dancing, movies ect., like before when we dated! Although we give each other breaks, we do not get to go out together. I want this dream vacation because this will help us to be better caregivers and yet strengthen our marriage.

Our dream vacation could be anywhere and we would be forever grateful for the time spent alone and together. It would be really cool and romantic to go back to San Francisco, California. That is where Bill and I fell in love! He took me to San Francisco on Valentine's Day in 1983 and that is where our true love began. We would if we could stay at the Cathedral Hill Hotel, go to Scott's Resturant downtown, ride the trolley's, take a boat trip around Alcatraz and reinact 1983 all over again.

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Update: Submitted on: 4/12/2006
Although life took on more than we planned for, Bill and I are committed and look forward to the years we have together. What we have experienced is life and we are a family who believes family takes care of family!

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